Today reading the New York Times I found myself looking at a list of the 10 Kinky Films before 50 shades of gray, well, no doubt it is an interesting and worth checking list. It just got me thinking on how much I adore playing and discovering things with my parter… and we all know how our minds fly when we start thinking about sex, right?
My mind ended up here, wondering, and trying to create a definition of what differ a kink from a fetish?!
So basically, from my understanding (including experience and google searches), Fetish is more of an object whereas kink can be a situation that takes place. I found this
great article that talks a bit about the difference in a more psychological view, that kinda helps us understanding that concept of touchable and situational.
Also, it is 2017, most of us are now out and about when it comes to our sexuality, what a personally call sex positivity. I decided to make a list of the most populars kinks and fetishes and using the rekink guide of fetishes and its terminologies.
If yours isn’t here… well keep in mind, that’s a wide, wild world! and send us a message!
Dom(me) – A role identifying a person as dominant; to be on the controlling and decision-making side of power exchange (male: Dom, female: Domme) One who has, takes, or receives power. – Tha is one of my favourites.
S/M – originally an acronym for “Sadomasochism,” S/M, SM, or S&M became an all-inclusive word meaning the same as “kink” or “BDSM,” when the scene was still in its fledgling stages. Many older texts will use S/M (or “leather”) in much the same way as we use “BDSM” or “kink” today.
Bondage – Restraint or restriction of a subject, often used to refer to a preference (ie, “I like bondage”). Can include rope bondage, suspension bondage, leather bondage, furniture and device bondage, predicament bondage. Can be employed for dominance, sex, art, or anything you like.
BDSM – A modern acronym used to refer to the kink and fetish communities and activities. Letters stand for many different things, including “Bondage and Disciplin,” “Dominance and Submission,” “Sadomasochim,” “Sadism and Masochism,” and “Slave/Master.”
Mummification – the wrapping or mummifying of part of all of the body to confine movement and/or limit sensory experience. Can be done with saran wrap, plastic, rubber, fabric, or with special equipment like vaccubeds.
One thing i find really important, is always to negotiate with your partner or whoever will be playing with, bottom lines that will meet both of your needs. Also, make sure to have safe words, it doesn’t mean you’re weak, just means you matter.